I have a to-do list for Death. What should one do when a loved one dies? Well, first off, acknowledge their presence and now, their absence from your life. Surround yourself with love. Self love, love from other loved ones or even just well wishers. You will need help! Take all the help that is offered. Remember this time. Grief will reduce, pain will subside but never forget the support you received. Never forget the people who were there for you.
Don't be shy of tears and emotions. Cry as much as you want. It will help you with your grief.
Go through your loved ones things. Their vlothes, personal belongings. Do not avoid this task. This will help process their absence sooner rather than later. Do not let grief sit and rot. Face it head on! Remember this time of need. And remember to be the support when someone needs you. Be strong with grief. It is coming for everyone. No one can avoid it. Where there is extreme love, there is extreme grief. Today or tomorrow, doesn't matter.
Think of Death as the ultimate truth, just like birth and breath. It is the end of a journey that started with our birth! It is the destination and there is nothing wrong in reaching your destination. That is the ultimate goal, right?
Yes, some deaths are painful and pain is scary. But pain is also a lot of mindgame. You might think, someone didn't deserve to die, that their time on Earth wasn't up yet. But we cant say or decide when our journey will end. Death just like birth, is not in our control. We can only control few things, really. Such as taking care of our body to the best of our knowledge, taking care of our mental and financial health. But things can and do go wrong many times. And, that is ok. Life isn't fair, was never fair and never will be. Life is just life! It is a mixed bag of treats.
